About the book

“I’m just not a romantic person.” Most people who say that were never shown how.

Singles say the traits they want most are someone they can trust, someone who says what they want, someone emotionally mature, and someone who makes them laugh. Looks come lower on the list. Nearly all of that is something you do.

Romance Is a Skill, Volume Four of The Romance Codex, teaches it, both ways. Part One shows men why attention beats expense, how to plan a date she tells her friends about, and how to say and show what they feel. Part Two shows women why men want to be pursued too, which gestures land with men, and how to appreciate a man without mothering him. Part Three covers what research says keeps two people close: new experiences, honest conversation, and small rituals. Part Four is the strategy: the “what are we?” conversation, green, red and beige flags, fighting fair in the first year, and deciding whether to commit, wait, or walk.

At the back: 101 Romance Starters, concrete ideas for him, for her, for either of you, for under $20, for early dates, and for single parents.

By David Bryan Smith.

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