The Romance Codex · Volume 3
The First Night
Sex on the First Date, Why We Wait, and What It Costs Us
by David Bryan Smith
Almost nobody decides when to have sex on purpose. The First Night looks honestly at what men and women each tend to think early sex means, what the research on timing and partner counts really shows (and can’t), and the costs of going fast and of waiting too long, then helps you set your own rule before the date.
About the book
About half of single men are comfortable with sex in the first three dates. Fewer than one in five single women are. Women more often regret the night they said yes; men more often regret the night they said no. And both sexes, far more often than they admit, are hoping it turns into something.
The First Night, Volume Three of The Romance Codex, is a frank, non-explicit look at the question nobody asks out loud: when? Part One covers the old rules and the new ones, what each sex thinks first-date sex means, and the double standard that judges women for “too much” and men for “too little.” Part Two goes through the research on timing, partner counts, and marriage, including what it can’t prove. Part Three adds up the cost of going fast, the cost of waiting too long, and the parts that are never optional: consent, sobriety, and safety.
It isn’t about how. It’s about when, and about making that choice on purpose.
Candid, fair to both sexes, and built on published research, with a section for men, a section for women, and an exercise in every chapter.
By David Bryan Smith.
About the author
David Bryan Smith, known as America’s Gentleman Hypnotist, has hypnotized more than 40,000 people and changed lives with a few well-chosen words. He has spent his career learning what makes people tick: what they want, what they fear, and what finally gets them to change. The Romance Codex puts that to work on modern love, in a candid, fair-to-both-sexes field guide for single men and women who want something real. Find him at davidbryansmith.com.