Note: this article contains humor …… careful or you just may laugh ……
Is sex … hypnosis. This is a complex question. So let me begin with a simple statement answering a more simple question. Do we go into hypnosis during Sex. The answer is a resounding YES. Yes we do … let me explain How, Why, When and Why is is good for us.
Lets start with a brief explanation of what hypnosis is and how it is in our everyday lives. Hypnosis is a brainwave state that we all slip into when our minds are overloaded with stimulus. Our minds can only handle so much information before it vents out what it deems unimportant so that we can absorb new information. In the lightest state of hypnosis (the Hypnoidal state) we loose track of time while driving a car, we don’t hear people talking to us while we are focused on the TV or a video game.
We also engage our imagination and the more vivid our thoughts, the more real they can appear to be when we enter into this “Trance State.” Day dreaming is a great stress release because we use our imaginations and enter into this Hypnoidal state of hypnosis and vent out some excess information while visually imagining something pleasant. We are basically purging bad info. As a side effect, our visualization becomes more real as we have a concentrated focus on our vision or day dream.
This is where sex comes in. Once the day dream or visualization slips into the world of sexual fantasy, the subconscious does not know the difference between a vividly imagined day dream and the real thing. In fact, I will go on record as saying that it is my experience that this element of erotic fantasy is necessary for each person to achieve sexual satisfaction.
This element of fantasy is necessary for a man to get an erection and absolutely a necessity for a woman to have an orgasm. Physical stimulation is not enough.
If you look at most women when they orgasm, in the moments right before they “go over the edge” they have their eyes closed and are in fantasy thus tripling or quadrupling the intensity by the use of their fantasy thoughts. Many times, the right type of physical stimulation will trigger a past erotic experience that was very intense that is coupled through this “post hypnotic orgasm trigger.”
It is also possible to recreate this orgasm trigger in a regular hypnotic session. All that is necessary is the induction of deep trance and the suggestion of physical stimulation by transference. Deep trance is induced and the person is told to imagine a pleasurable touch stroking a pleasurable part of their body. Compounding this suggestion will intensify the feeling until the moment of “going over the edge” into orgasm. Hypnotic induced orgasms are many times much more intense than typical orgasms.
Put plainly .. when we fantasize during sex … we have better orgasms and more reliable orgasms.
The use of this natural organic hypnotic fantasy and the right physical touch can result in the five distinct orgasms.
- The Vaginal orgasm – “ get up and go to work-gasm”
- The Clitoral orgasm – “ this is good sex-gasm”
- The G-spot orgasm – “ this is very good sex-gasm”
- The body orgasm – G spot and Clitoral “ I can’t move right now-gasm”
- The “SuperGasm” where a woman will have a clitoral orgasm, a g-spot orgasm, a body orgasm and the fantasy orgasm simultaneously (and at the same time ..) “the “my god you **** like a rock star-gasm … I can’t move right now and don’t you move either … I may have passed out .. and I’m drooling”
For each of these situations, the use of fantasy is the triggering factor. Natural organic hypnotic fantasy will enhance any sexual relationship and result in more reliable orgasmic satisfaction. It is healthy for us and happens naturally during sex.. why not play with these concepts a bit and see how they could fit for you and your partner. This type of play develops intimacy and promotes sharing.
So to sum in all up .. “Is Sex … Hypnosis” …… “NO” … “but good sex .. IS.”
I hope you found this article fun, funny and informative.
For more laughs and information of this subject … see Dave’s new book “The Gentleman’s Guide to the Female Orgasm – A Mystery Novel” by David Bryan Smith – America’s Gentleman Hypnotist being released in March 2011
You say that fantasy is necessary for orgasm for women. This is just not true. The only time I have ever had to fantasize during sex was when the sex was so bad that I would not have had an orgasm otherwise.
For the record, be it known that I have had sex with over a hundred men. I love sex. I am really good at it, and I know good sex better than most people. I am also a very in-tune person and I am fully aware of my internal life and my thoughts.
Fantasy is pretty important for men before and during sex, but not for women. Fantasy has nothing to do with sex or orgasm for most women. When a woman closes her eyes during orgasm, it is to remove the visual stimulus so that she can feel her body responses and sensations better. Removing the visual stimulus allows her to focus in on her the other stimulus. It is that simple.
I just had to comment because your information is not accurate. Your article was a fun read, but it was wrong.
Thanks for the comment Jenny …
The thing is … as soon as you close your eyes, you are slipping into the Hypnoidal state of hypnosis. This is why you can shut out the visual stimulus. It’s not just a matter of closing your eyes and now you can’t see. For many more visually stimulated people, they can “see” with their eyes shut. They just imagine seeing it. It is the concentrated focus that tips the scale. You may not think that because you are not thinking about anyone particular person that you are not fantasizing. You may just call it “relaxing and enjoying the moment.” My point here is that this focus, puts us into the Hypnoidal state of hypnosis and intensifies the pleasure, especially if it reminds us of how we felt at another time when we were aroused. This connection is what I refer to as an organic post hypnotic erotic suggestion. Basically … because it felt good to be touched there before .. and now you are being touched there again …. it re-triggers the feeling of pleasure. I hope that makes sense. Not every touch feels that way. I will bet though that the most pleasurable touches have a history, and you can probably remember the first times you were touched that way and how it made you feel. You remember it so vividly because you were in this Hypnoidal state of hypnosis when the erotic suggestion/feeling occurred. This allows us all to recreate this feeling. My point is really not that we all fantasize during sex .. my point is that during good sex .. we use these erotic triggers, slip into the Hypnoidal state of hypnosis and have powerful orgasms. People who don’t use this tool may or may not climax during sex at all. They may not have formed these organic post hypnotic triggers. those who have can climax faster, better and more consistently and often … they just have a better sex life and are happier.
Thanks for the comment …. it is an interesting discussion
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First question Hypno Guy??How do you know so ooo much about the vagina?? Wow thats hot!! That was a great fanasty learning about all those orgasms we have really….I mean I have an ocassional numba 5 gasm….but i too think for me staying in the moment, hyponotic or whatever isbest…if i go back to the first time I got “touched” I was twelve and some 18 yr old boy violated me sexaully, when i was 15 i was raped while hitchhiking.. so not always does going back to that first moment work for some..just adding my two sense..thank you for listeming,, so do you think that I could be cured by hypnotherapy?
Thanks for the comment. Sorry about your first sexual encounter, unfortunatly, I hear this type of thing a lot. Not a good way to start exploring your sexuality.
Fortunately, when you trigger an natural orgasm, you are not triggering this rape memory ….. unless somehow this was exciting for you which is doubtful. You are triggering the strongest previous pleasurable feeling, which will result from a previous pleasurable experience and so on until you reach that original pleasurable stimulus. When you get those #5s …. I’d place money your re triggering the first time you had a #5 in some capacity. Now that your thinking …. I’ll bet your remembering it more clearly. Men don’t seem to have this same detail oriented orgasm memory. For men, it can have just the opposite effect. A man can have a “Poor experience” or get ridiculed for not lasting long enough, not touching the right spot … etc … and have real performance anxiety set in and have trouble getting and keeping an erection during sex. Again … its this organic trigger of what happened then will happen now … if it was a good out come … yea …. if it was a bad out come … no desire or fearful to perform and Mr Happy is sad.
I also feel there is a learning curve with a partner where you learn what feels good and what triggers bad memories. There is also a lot of room for growth. Just because someone has had a #1 or #2 …. doesn’t mean they can’t jump to a #5 with a new partner. Often times this newness can heighten the arousal state along with touching new places. There is a big difference between a get up and go orgasm and a strong clitoral and or G-spot orgasm.
I must mention here the suggestion of trust. Trusting a partner means letting go and letting yourself open up. This is also true of a hypnotist. If there is no trust between a hypnotist and his person (I hate the word subject) the person will not go very deep. If there is trust, the person can go very deep. So to summ it up … if you trust your lover, you can go deeper in …. hypnosis/fantasy/relaxing and let it happen …what ever name you want to call it …. during sex and trigger pleasurable organic orgasm feelings that can help achieve reliable and intense orgasms.
Hope that clears up a few points.
Good question and good discussion. As to how i know so much … that is another blog post …
Thanks again for the comment
If you had phrased your thoughts in terms of hypnotic state (ex. when the eyes are closed), it would have made more sense. “Fantasy” is not quite the same as hypnosis. I do go into a hypnotic state pretty easily, but fantasy takes a lot of work.
I would not argue that hypnosis is part of good sex, but fantasy has nothing to do with it.
Thanks for the follow up Jenny. I started writing these posts because there is so much misinformation about the subject of hypnosis and how we use it everyday. Fantasy can take a more involved conscious state. That may be why it seems harder to fantasize for you. Or it just might not be that enjoyable. We take in information through sight, sound and feelings. Researchers call it auditory, visual, and kinesthetic. I say fantasy involves a hypnotic state as does good sex. I think we agree that sex is better …. when it’s good and the hypnotic state makes it more intense .. which makes it good. We good with that ….
I’m just presenting some ideas that are interesting. To me its like the square and rectangle. A square is a rectangle but a rectangle is not always a square. Fantasy is hypnosis, but hypnosis is not always fantasy.
Here is something else .. you don’t always have to have your eyes closed to be in hypnosis. Remember the example of driving a car and not remembering the route to your destination.
Thanks for having a different view and letting me know about it. I try to have ideas instead of beliefs because ideas are so much easier to change. And, the scientist in me really likes to see evidence before I really take to an idea. One thing for sure is that no one knows you .. like you do. If you say you don’t fantasize, then I believe you. I think we both agree that the best sex starts with communication – both conscious and subconscious.
Have good sex ….
Dave